I don't like Bonni. She's rigid and rant-y and NEGATIVE all the time. When she talks about situations she's been in, all the other people are so stupid, even though she doesn't SAY that. It's in the way that she tells her stories- NO ONE has ANY brain cells but HER. She drags me down.
The thing is, Bonni is EVERYWHERE. She's at my work, my church, my playgroup, my book club, my baby&me class... BTW, all of these places were "mine" first, except for our playgroup.
She competitive with me. I always feel like she thinks she's better than me, and that she wants others to see that she is better than me too.
She's unnecessarily aggressive about certain things- at work she called our boss TWICE to say that SHE wanted to teach with me when our friend Pammy moves in February. This was not "the way" of things at work- the calendar of classes is set out, and anyone is free to sign up for any class. Most of us have classes that we usually teach, and there is an unspoken seniority rule- those of us with more experience tend to teach certain classes. SHE is the newest, therefore not the next "natural" person to teach those classes. AND she didn't need to call our boss and "claim" her spot. It would have been more natural to wait and see if anyone else- WITH MORE EXPERIENCE- signed up in Pammy's place, and if not, offer to do it. Going to our boss, off hours, TWICE, was territorial and silly. (Our boss told me of these phone calls.)
She's controlling. Very, very controlling.
I feel like she's squeezing me out of my own life.
I am very secure in my friendships in all of our shared arenas. In every case, except playgroup, I've been a part of that group for YEARS longer than she, and don't feel threatened by people "liking her better" or anything.
And yet, it continues to BUG THE SHIT out of me.
Which is my problem, and least to a large degree.
Why do I let it bother me so much? Why do I care? What is she triggering in me that her presence makes me effing crazy?
These are the questions that are weighing on me lately.
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My mother-in-law is a Bonni-type.
Gah! I hate people like that. & the more they seem to annoy you, the more it seems they are everywhere you look so you can't get a moment of peace. Bonni needs a good bitch slap! :)
Whoa. Uncanny. Yes, we need to get Bonni and my office manager together. They can BITCH their day away. Though my lady is not so controlling as she is LOUDLY SIGHING IN THE CORNER over every last freaking thing. UGH!
I hear ya C4.
I have a Bonnie. She just yapped my ear off for an hour about her dysfuncional family today. A FUCKING HOUR! The worst part? The things she was telling me...were ALL STORIES SHE HAS TOLD ME 65 TIMES BEFORE! All she ever does is BITCH BITCH BITCH....I just want to smack her in the face and tell her to SHUT UP!
whew! I didn't know I had the pent up. Thanks! I also read about your plan to do Best Life. I'm doing it too...and you can read about it on my blog. I just started it this weekend and it's about getting fit before baby. I haven't written yet about the diet portion...but I will soon. Stop by sometime!
P.S. Good Luck with Bonnie
I'm trying to cut Bonnie's out of my life but they seem to be boomerangs, always coming back when you least want them!
Ugh ~ it would just bug the crap out of me to see ANYONE in that many places all the time. Even people I like! LOL
I always try to tell myself it is because they are the ones who are insecure and needy...but it sure is hard to do. Down with Bonnis.
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